# Human Presence Delegation Table

For the method in
[What AI Can Delegate in Family Life, and What It Cannot Touch](/articles/ai-cannot-replace-presence).

## Not for

Shaming accessibility uses. Text-to-speech, drafting support for social anxiety or a language
barrier, translation, or AI-assisted communication devices that make real connection possible are
not the thing this table warns against.

## Sort this week's family tasks

| Task | Keep (needs a present person) | Delegate (logistics/drafting, still yours) | Put away (no tool, full attention) |
| --- | --- | --- | --- |
| | ☐ | ☐ | ☐ |
| | ☐ | ☐ | ☐ |
| | ☐ | ☐ | ☐ |
| | ☐ | ☐ | ☐ |

## Reference sort

| Keep | Delegate | Put away |
| --- | --- | --- |
| Comforting someone in distress | Birthday/appointment reminders | During an actual conversation once it's started |
| Noticing a mood shift and asking about it | First draft of a hard message you'll rewrite | Meals |
| Repairing a conflict face to face | Summarizing a missed group chat | Bedtime |
| Being present at a bedside | Scheduling a visit | A real disagreement |
| Celebrating news in the moment | Organizing shared photos or documents | When someone is telling you something vulnerable |

## The test for anything in between

- [ ] Did I skip something only I could have done to produce this result?
- [ ] Would the other person feel that skip if they knew?
- [ ] Is my AI use increasing specifically because this relationship got harder, rather than because the task got more complex?

## This week's put-away moment

- **Moment I'm committing to (meal, call, bedtime, etc.):**
- **What "no tool" means specifically (phone away, not just silenced):**
- **How it went:**

## If accessibility applies to you or someone you love

- [ ] This use removes a barrier that was preventing presence, not replacing presence that was otherwise available
- [ ] No explanation is owed for using it

## A note on drafting involving other people

Keep drafts about family members light-touch — a starting point you rewrite, not a place to paste
extensive personal detail about someone else's health, finances, or private struggles. See
[Privacy 101](/articles/privacy-101-what-chatgpt-remembers) for what typically gets retained.